I watch porn a lot differently than I used to.

When I used to sneak around and watch whatever hardcore videos beamed through the satellite dish, I would sit and watch attentively for as long as I could, taking it all in until I heard my parents pulling into the driveway.

When I moved out on my own, the interruptions stopped. With access to the internet and a small collection of X-rated DVDs, I could watch the way I wanted to: scene by scene, from beginning to end.

Then, things changed.

Not with me. I would be more than happy to watch these movies and clips from the setup to the money shot. But something happened to mainstream heterosexual porn. And now I find myself skipping through the videos I’m watching.

I’m not fast-forwarding through the dialogue — I still love giggling at the bad scripts, the awkward delivery, and …

I have to admit: I’m a screamer. I’m sometimes glad that I work from home because most neighbors are gone during the day, which means they rarely get to hear me have orgasms.

Unfortunately, when I get frisky beyond business hours, my entire building might just be in on my orgasm. Especially when I have a partner helping me get there. (Assisted orgasms for the win!) So, my lovers (especially the dominant ones) tend to like to keep something around to keep me quiet: a gag.

Gags are interesting instruments. Most don’t really quiet you down that much. They may make it hard to enunciate your lover’s name, but you can do all the loud, incoherent screaming you want. Other gags, however, are pretty effective at silencing you completely.

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Tell me about the first time you deep-throated.
Woman A: I had been dating my then boyfriend for a few months, and we were starting to explore more sexually. One day when I was giving him a blow job, I put his penis as far down my throat as I could until I gagged a bit. He let out this deep moan and I realized how much he enjoyed it, so I kept doing it. I read articles about how to do it better, and I learned that I also really enjoyed deep-throating.

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Ball gags may not seem like a beginner’s forte, but they are surprisingly not as hardcore as many perceive them to be.

It’s not surprising that a majority of people are a bit alarmed, or even scared, of ball gags. The image of an individual, mouth agape, fueled with emotions of humiliation, sadism, and fantasy can leave some disinterested.

Gags are primarily centered in the dominant and submissive dynamic in kink. The gag is a piece of bondage equipment which muffles a submissive partner. Since gags come in a variety of shapes and sizes, it’s best to understand which bondage piece should be incorporated into your S&M experimentation.

All gags are fun sex toys regardless of whether you’re in a BDSM relationship or not. While they may seem a little tricky at first, gags can increase physical and emotional connections in the bedroom.

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Do you love to see a lover gag on your cock as she takes as much of it as she can down her throat? Maybe you like to have her suck on your fingers and then most of your hand until she gags? If you watch porn, you probably think this is a common fetish or fantasy.

From my experience it’s not as common as in porn, but the men who like it, really like it. I think a woman gagging on a cock makes some men feel huge, whether they are or not. They get turned on by thinking this woman in front of them can’t take their entire manhood… that it’s just too much.

Sometimes it’s just the gagging itself that’s the turn on. For instance, I had a long-distance lover who loved to hear me gag over the phone. I would use cucumbers and carrots to suck …